I like to channel hop and I have to confess to being a lover of reality TV. Most of it is rubbish but I watch it anyway! I was channel hopping yesterday and came across a program called The Housewives Of Orange County. I am not usually watching TV at 4pm late afternoon but I was about to start cooking early and had stopped for a cup of tea before starting.
Anyway (now that I have provided an excuse to justify my behavior 🙂 ) I flicked onto this program and there was a woman (not sure of her name) and a guy I believe is called Brooks. He said something that I love and wanted to quote
“Life is 10% what happens to us and 90% how we respond to it”
I had no idea who originally said that and after searching found this great piece about attitude:
“The longer I live the more I realize the impact of attitude on life.
Attitude, to me, is more important than facts.
It is more important than the past, than education, than money,
than circumstances, than failures, than successes,
than what other people think or say or do.
It is more important than appearance, giftedness,
or skill. It will make or break a company… a church… a home.
The remarkable thing is we have a choice everyday regarding the attitude
we will embrace for that day. We cannot change our past…
we cannot change the fact that people will act in a certain way.
We cannot change the inevitable.
The only thing that we can do is to play on the one string we have
and that is our attitude…
I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me
and 90% how I react to it.
And so it is with you… we are in charge of our attitudes.”
~Charles Swindoll, from Strengthening Your Grip
It is so true that when it comes to building self-confidence how you respond to what happens to you makes a huge difference to how your day, and your life, turns out. I have recently been responding in a frustrated way to a dispute over a refund I should have received by now and have not. I was letting this dispute suck my energy and allowing it (taking full responsibility for my emotional state) get me down. Hearing that quote yesterday was like a reminder from the universe – I was definitely meant to be sitting there at the moment drinking my cup of tea!
Now, it is my intention to respond differently to it, and while I remain assertively empathetic I also intend to allow tenacity to win out in the end.